American Beauty star Mena Suvari reveals horror of sexual abuse when she was just 12

TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains information about sexual assault that may be traumatic for some readers. Discretion is advised.

Mena Suvari rose to fame at a very young age and was a part of several movies like “American Pie”, “American Beauty”, and more. After years of struggle, the actress opened up about her demons in her memoir, ‘The Great Peace: A Memoir.’ When he came out, Suvari’s son was only a few months old and she was suffering from postnatal depression. It wasn’t easy for her to talk about the trauma she talked about in the book.

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The 43-year-old award-winning actress found the courage to open up about her past when she went through hell. The actress revealed in the memoir that she was raped when she was just 12, thrown as bait to predatory older men, coped with drug addiction and that she had been in a terrifying and abusive relationship where she was manipulated into maintaining a sexual relationship with others. people too. Suvari said she didn’t care about the sales of the memoirs, as writing her ordeal was the most important part. She said The Guardian, “I needed to express myself. I needed to purge that to move on…I really wanted to let it go.”

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In her memoir, the 43-year-old actress mentioned that she believed her worth was not just how she looked, but how sexy she was, subtly referencing her role as the virginal Heather in ‘American Pie. ” and Angela in “American Beauty”. ‘ which established her as a teenage sex object. Previously, she also opened up about her unusual experience with Kevin Costner. She said that before filming an intimate scene, Costner invited her into a small room and asked her to lie on the bed next to him. He held her tightly, and a young Mena Suvari didn’t know whether or not it was an instruction from the headmaster at the time. Her memoir also talks about the incident where she was sexually abused at the age of 12 by a relative.

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Mena Suvari attends FX’s ‘American Horror Story’ 100th Episode Celebration at Hollywood Forever on October 26, 2019 in Hollywood, California (Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty Images)

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Suvari shared that her early childhood was happy, but it quickly changed when she moved in with her mother and one of her brothers in the Virgin Islands. Soon the whole family moved to South Carolina. She says: “I struggled to be seen and heard, engaged with. But I didn’t feel such a loss of sense of myself until I was 12. When I was raped.” She revealed how a friend of one of her brothers paid her a lot of attention, wrote her love letters and encouraged her to have sex before repeatedly raping her at his home. She was further tormented by this “friend” after he told everyone at her school that Suvari was a “bitch”. She said, “It sucked my life out. I think it was just over-confirmation that nobody was going to save me, nobody was going to do anything for me.”

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Mena Suvari attends the premiere of Warner Bros. Pictures'
Mena Suvari attends the premiere of ‘It Chapter Two’ at Regency Village Theater on August 26, 2019 in Westwood, Calif. (Jon Kopaloff/Getty Images,)

Another major reason why something like this could prevail so easily was because everyone was treating Suvari like an adult when she wasn’t even a teenager. The doctors, being commissioned reporters, paid no attention to detail. When Suvari was treated for bladder infections from the rapes, she was simply given contraception. No adult – his parents or the doctor – could understand him.

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Suvari explains that at the time of these rapes, she was signed by a modeling agency in the children’s division, and by the following summer she was already fielding casting calls in New York. It was then suggested that she move permanently to Los Angeles, which she did, along with her parents. For her, modeling was a getaway drug. But it also changed her opinion of herself. She began to believe that the only thing that mattered was her appearance. Also, if you’re “sexy”, that’s it. She shared, “Everyone was thrilled with how I looked at 18. But I was 12. What was communicated to me was that I was an adult, so I can act like an adult. “

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Mena Suvari attends the Last Chance for Animals 35th Anniversary Gala at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on October 19, 2019 in Beverly Hills, California.
Mena Suvari attends the Last Chance for Animals 35th Anniversary Gala at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on October 19, 2019 in Beverly Hills, California (Tibrina Hobson/Getty Images)

The actress has revealed gruesome details about how she used to attract older men while asking them to return sexual favors. She recalled an incident where a photographer in her twenties took photos of her nude Suvari when she was 15, alone at home. Then another incident when one of her business advisers, in his thirties, started having sex with her when she was 16. do this with you.” “The actress said she had good grades, was successful overall, and was generally smart, so people didn’t notice. She continued: “To my own detriment, no one noticed.

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After Suvari’s mother left the family, she was the only one left to take care of her father. That’s when she started using drugs, including crystal meth. However, the situation was about to get worse, as this was the moment when she met a lighting designer who would ruin her life for many years. The relationship was instantly abusive and he called her by all names. But Suvari, on the other hand, would need her affection and validation.

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The book also reveals instances of horrific sex toy use that often left Suvari under medical treatment. She said, “I was not loved. I was just a body, a receptacle for his desires.” She even revealed that this not-so-better half had manipulated her for years in threesomes, even with people she met on set. Years later, when she met some of the same people, she confronted them. Suvari continues, “I said, ‘I want you to know that I never wanted to do any of those things’. She was surprised. She said, ‘Oh, he told me you wanted to do it’. It was a huge eye-opener for me, how I was being manipulated and I had no idea. The circumstances had been created for me, and I was just engulfed in it.

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Right now, Suvari is proud to have penned her memoir while people are all over her Instagram, thanking her for being able to relate to the abuse. Speaking about it, she said: “It was bittersweet because it was beautiful to feel seen and heard, but it was heartbreaking to hear that others had identified in the same way. ”

If you or someone you know suspects child abuse, you are urged to call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline immediately at 1-800-4-A-Child or 1-800-422-4453 , or go to www.childhelp.org. All calls are free and confidential and the hotline is available 24/7 in over 170 languages.

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